No Where Left to Fap – #NoFap Challenge
There has been a recent trend growing on the interwebs called the No Fap Challenge. Essentially, it challenges men to stop masturbating. There are tons of articles about the pros and cons to releasing your love fluid, and there are even more articles about the damages to the psyche due to the overwhelming amount of “fappable matter” on the web. As such, I am going to tell you about how not fapping impacted my life.
Why did I stop fapping? To begin, fapping was a quick-fix to boredom. I felt like I was using it to satisfy my urges more and more, and that the search to find content that was “satisfying” was getting harder and harder (pun intended). I felt like I wasn’t trying as hard in my relationships, or when not in a relationship, I wasn’t trying as hard to get with women. I felt it was making sex less satisfying. I just wasn’t liking how it made me feel anymore.
How did I make the change? We all may assume that fapping is easy to quit, but let me tell you, it’s not the same for everyone. Some people can possibly white knuckle their way through it, but others need to change their lifestyles quite a bit. Sadly, I was from the latter. It’s weird to think of something so pleasurable, that doesn’t seem to cause us any physical damage? It was definitely a knock to my ego, as I always assumed I could cut down or stop at any time.
My experience was much simple. I came home, and I was alone, and instead of deciding to fap, I decided to go for a run. That was the beginning of my journey. I think the best advice I can give anyone is to stay busy, and try not to NEVER BE ALONE IN THE BEGINNING! You would be surprised how often your mind can wander to fapping in the first week.
How did my life change when I stopped? After I tried to stay as busy as possible doing productive things, I started getting that wonderful sense of accomplishment you get after doing something that makes you better. Have you ever felt after fapping, like you’ve lost a part of you? That sense of ease mixed with forlornness? After I had stopped in the first week I had a ridiculous amount of energy. I just wanted to be out and about all the time, like I couldn’t stand sitting down in one place. I was going out with my friends, partying, working out, always on the move. I noticed after the first few weeks, the amount of effort I was expending on value adding tasks was increasing exponentially. I was feeling good about myself.
I can’t say that my game with women has increased exponentially, but my persistence to try definitely did. I was more attentive to girls, because each time I talked to them, it felt like a “do-or-die” moment. If I couldn’t get them to like me, I would explode.
But then something changed. I started talking to women more for the pleasure of talking. That initial charge of testosterone fueled energy of wanting to make love until the sun burst out of the sky went away, and I was just happy to be around women for the sake of social interaction. I think the greatest part of this was the fact that, I stopped having ridiculously high expectations of how women should look.
Every man who reads this probably has their “ideal girl” that has been developed through the constant exposure to sexy Instagram pictures, beautiful porn stars, and *gasp* THE FAPPENING! But at the end of the day, when you have finally have control of your baser self, your passion is like a nuclear reactor that is always on the verge of melting down in a glorious display of firework-like explosions. And when you finally let loose with some good old fashioned sex, let me just say, that fireworks analogy is a bland version of the real thing.
Try the No Fap Challenge for a month. See if you notice improvements in your life. At best, you may feel like a new man altogether and ready to kick down all the doors of opportunity in this world. At worst, you proved to yourself you aren’t addicted, that you can stop at any time, and you are the master of your domain.